I'm not a feminist! I sincerely believe that life without men would be a real nightmare. I grew up with a military father, among soldiers, planes, helicopters and parachutes (literally), convinced I could do anything boys could do. And I did, like all of us!
I write this text, however, to highlight complementarity, differences, but also the importance of collaboration between yin and yang — how masculine and feminine energy, combined with inspiration, increase productivity, a fact scientifically proven. Imagine a large team in a company, made up only of men or only of women. I almost see the chaos! Some clients expressly ask us, for a certain open position, either a woman or a man, citing gender balance in the team. And I say a big BRAVO!
Others prefer a male candidate for a certain position, based on the belief that a woman will not handle it as well — a role that may involve a lot of travel, night work, construction sites, factories. We say it's discrimination — but if we think about what women, femininity, mean, don't we realize that such a role really doesn't suit a woman?
But this isn't where discrimination is found — rather in the strong belief of some men who, simply, without being able to give reasons or arguments, consider women inferior. Many times it's not even their fault, but a reflex of social learning accumulated from the families they lived in, from the mothers who raised them, and from the way those mothers were women in front of their men, under the gaze of the little boy who was forming and transforming into a man.
A vicious cycle that perpetuates itself. Our collective unconscious is full of messages and memories supporting women's inferiority; these get activated in today's concrete situations too.
What does this mean concretely, for the present? That few men are authentic misogynists nursing sincere contempt for women — most of those who live, judge and act by misogynistic ideas do so by virtue of an infraconscious informational baggage, taken on uncontrolled and never examined.
Global research, from credible and well-known sources such as McKinsey, Credit Suisse, Nordia Bank, Catalyst, has shown that "when 30% of a firm's top management team are women, the company becomes 65% more profitable."
All men who have loved at least once are not misogynists! Get past the belief that it's cool to be a bit misogynistic; look deep inside yourselves and ask whether that's what you really believe about women. And since when did you start believing it? I say we accept each other, support each other and bring out the best from the woman-man couple — the most productive team since the beginning of the world!
